I have managed to over-come so many of life's tough breaks, and still manage to be positive and give most of my life back in service to others. My problem is I can be so nice to everyone that is nice back of course and some that are not so nice to me as well. I get into trouble with the daily idiots we meet out here, and it drives me to distraction why I feel the need to let them upset me.
I order one item at fast food joint and 50% of the time they can't get it right, and then they say I ordered the wrong thing instead of "I'm sorry". Like I got a "diet Dr. Pepper" yesterday and I weigh 195 pounds at 6'1'' and never ordered a diet ANYTHING" in my life, but this jackass wants to blame me!!!!
My lawn man has NO LAWN MOWER……. so I let him use my $350.00 Sears, top notch mower that has been used only 6 times. Two hours later, mowing my yard at my houses, he breaks the handle and loses the bolt that holds it on and says he never noticed it. I noticed it the first second I touched it.
The nurse that comes to my house to change bandages is 4 hours later than the appointment and I lose the whole day waiting for him. When he arrives I mention this to him, and he gets angry at me, and says I could have called him too. I tell him I pay you $150.00 every time you come here for 10 minutes of effort and you want me to chase you around on the phone too??????
My friend says to me on the phone, "Hey, I'll call you right back". Then proceeds to never call back. Same friend I loan my book to that he never gave back, and I've asked for it twice now.
Someone on this site asked for help, and I write back all I can to do just that, and what I get back is a frigging stupid "ty" back.
I give out ten small gifts to neighbors on my block. Six out of ten are black, and I try to get along with everyone. NOT ONE black said thank-you or anything at all. None mentioned a thing about it. All others were very happy and said so.
All of these kinda things happen "ALL" the time, and not just once or twice. I wouldn't think to mention it if they happened infrequently. I Live in south florida, home of all the cast-offs from every country it seems as well. I try hard to be a good decent human being and caring and kind, but some of the people today make it so hard......so difficult to be nice to them and let things go for me. Can anyone tell me why it seems all of you do a better job than I do in dealing with jerks. I need to do a better job and get along with most everyone and not just the wonderful people for it's easy to be friends with nice good people, anyone can do that if they're a good one too.. Please tell me what you think.
It's so, so easy to hurt someone...... but it seems so hard to be nice for most people.
Thanks so much for any reply.